2 Samuel 13 tells the sad story of Tamar. Her brother, Amnon, acted out his sexual obsession with his half-sister, Tamar by conspiring with a friend to trick her into being alone with him. The tricked worked and, even though Tamar begged for mercy and desperately suggested an honorable marriage, Amnon raped her.
Once he had abused her, Amnon rejected her. She lived in disgrace as a desolate woman in her other brother’s house. The painful loneliness of her life was another trial she faced. Her faather, David, though he knew what had happened, chose to do nothing. Because of this, Tamar’s brother, Absolom developed a true bitterness towards his brother and planned vengeance on his brother. Years later, Absolom killed Amnon.
It’s a shame that Tamar appeared unable to avail herself of the ever present help she had in God Himself. Tamar is such a tragic figure. Her father showed a real lack of self-control and this was passed on to his sons. Unfortunately, because of her brother’s lack of self-control, she was terribly abused and Scripture does not record that she ever recovered from this but spent her days desolate.
People hurt us, abuse us, disappoint us, insult us, etc. We are unable to truly count on them to do the right thing. Thank God we have Him Who always knows and always helps.
Psalm 34:18 The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite spirit.
Trials happen. They come into everyone’s life time and time again. One of the wonderful things about being a believer is that it changes our perspective on trials. Believers know that the Lord is near to those who have broken hearts. Even better, believers can learn to rejoice in their trials:
· Count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. James 1:2-3
· You have been grieved by various trials, that the genuineness of your faith, being much more precious than gold that perishes, though it is tested by fire, may be found to praise, honor, and glory at the revelation of Jesus Christ. 1 Peter 1:6-7
It’s through these trials that God works in our lives to make us more like Christ. Romans 8:28-29 reminds us that all things work to the good but the good is that these things are the way in which God chooses to use to conform us to the very image of His Dear Son