2 Samuel 6:16 Now as the ark of the Lord came into the City of David, Michal, Saul’s daughter, looked through a window and saw King David leaping and whirling before the Lord; and she despised him in her heart.
Being married is difficult at times. The qualities about David that Michal first fell in love with were the same qualities she later came to despise. David was handsome, heroic, and had a heart for God. Maybe Michal misunderstood the focused devotion David had for God. Maybe she had hoped she would be able to help him redirect that devotion towards herself.
Michal had suffered quite a few disappointments in her married life. Her father used her as bait for a trap in order to catch the man she loved (1 Sam. 18:17-29). David was able to work through that and Michal ended up as his wife. Then her father kept trying to kill her husband. I daresay that doesn’t lead to a nice honeymoon. Then her father stole her from her husband and gave her to another man. David eventually got her back (2 Sam. 3:14-16), but by then he had several other wives. Not quite the picture I’m sure she had in mind.
The resentment and bitterness she felt towards David finally came to a head on the day the ark was brought into Jerusalem. There he was, her husband, leading the parade, leaping and dancing in his joy before the Lord, as she watched him from a palace window. She thought he was being excessive and most likely felt embarrassed by this excessive behavior. She confronted him with derision. It may be understandable for her to feel frustration and bitterness but her timing and target was all wrong. Instead of getting her husband’s attention, she demeaned his faith.
It’s important to remember that we are not to judge whether someone else’s devotion to God is true or not. God Himself will weed out the tares. We cannot excuse our bad attitudes because of injustices, hardships, and unfulfilled expectations. We are responsible for our responses.